TAD Blog 69: Reconciliation – Rethinking Forgiveness

Nothing is more critical to our skeletal structure than the spine.  Using the analogy of the human body to understand discipleship, I would suggest that our spiritual spine is also critical.  Our physical spine has three connected, very important parts (L1, L2, L3) which we take for granted until something goes wrong.  Then we are forced to recognize how integrated and dependent our whole body is on the spinal column.  Likewise, we can imagine that our spiritual “spine” has three corresponding parts that give form and strength to our spiritual body:  reconciliation (L1), adoption (L2), and naturalization (L3). 

The process of discipleship is supported by this skeletal structure.  As our spiritual life grows, so should our understanding of these three core realities.  Much of the spiritual pain we experience can be traced to our “spiritual spine”.  In the next several blogs, I want to explore our spiritual spine beginning with reconciliation (L1).  

The term reconciliation means to restore harmony or friendship.  For example, when an accountant’s books are “reconciled,” the figures fit together in unity.  Or, when a personal relationship is reconciled, parties that were in conflict are realigned into harmony.

In the Bible, RECONCILIATION is used to describe the reuniting of man in relationship with God; it is the central theme of the gospel.  The original, created design of harmony between God, man and nature was disrupted by man’s rebellion. 

The good news of the gospel is that this relationship, having been lost, is now once again made possible through the substitutionary death of Christ on the cross.  This substitution means not only that his death takes the place of ours (Isa. 53:6; 1 Peter 3:18) but that He takes our sin and credits (imputes) us with His righteousness (Rom 4:3-6).  This offer of reconciliation through forgiveness changes everything.  That is why Paul tells us we are now “new creations in Christ” (2 Cor. 5:17).

Through the substitutionary work of Christ on the cross, the penalty of all our sin is paid and God’s justice is satisfied.  His abundant love and sacrificial mercy He took the initiative to remove the barrier of our past and future sin to make reconciliation with Him possible.         

Biblical reconciliation has three interconnected concepts:  FORGIVENESS, PARDON, and JUDGEMENT. I will focus on forgiveness in this blog and discuss the other two in future blogs.

In today’s culture, forgiveness has taken on a psychological health role rather than a biblical one.  Rather than seeking reconciliation and a restored relationship the purpose is to help the person manage the pain of a relational conflict. For example, check any modern dictionary or psychological handbook and you will find something like this:  Forgiveness:  “to stop being angry with someone who has done something wrong” (Cambridge Dictionary).

Or “Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as resentment and vengeance, and with an increased ability to wish the offender well” (Wikipedia).

Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness or have repented of what they did. 

This intrapersonal or “therapeutic” model of forgiveness can also permeate the Christian culture, but it is NOT the Biblical use of “forgiveness.”

Certainly the Bible talks about the importance of releasing anger, resentment, and vengeance. Paul calls on the believers in the city of Ephesus:  “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you” (Ephesians. 4:31-32).

Notice that Paul identifies several responses that are to characterize believers:                           

    1.  Put away bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, malice

    2.  Be kind, tender-hearted 

    4.  Forgiving each other just as God in Christ has forgiven you

Look at these again.  They are related but distinct; separate responses.

Biblical forgiveness (reconciliation), while it is a gracious offer, is also conditional.  The response necessary for forgiveness to be effective and reconciliation to be realized is repentance. 

“Jesus recognized that there are conditions to be fulfilled before forgiveness can be granted. Forgiveness is part of a mutual relationship; the other part is the repentance of the offender. God does not forgive without repentance, nor is it required of man. The effect of forgiveness is to restore to its former state the relationship which was broken by sin. Such a restoration requires the cooperation of both parties. There must be both a granting and an acceptance of the forgiveness.”  (International Standard Bible Encyclopedia)

The purpose of therapeutic forgiveness is to restore YOUR mental and emotional health by putting away bitterness, anger and a host of destructive responses.  Biblical forgiveness is more than a change in attitude towards another person; its goal is to achieve restoration of the relationship.  God doesn’t forgive us to feel better.  He forgives because He desires our relationship.

Chris Brauns, in his book Unpacking Forgiveness defines God’s forgiveness as:  “A commitment by the one true God to pardon graciously those who repent and believe so that they are reconciled to him, although this commitment does not eliminate all consequences”.1

Paul uses the biblical model of forgiveness to instruct us in how we are to “forgive others as God in Christ has forgiven you.” Jesus said, “If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive.  Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again (repentance) and asks forgiveness, you must forgive” (Luke 17:3-4).  In this model there is repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation.

Next we will look at reconciliation through the lens of a legal pardon.

Question for reflection: 

Notice the characteristics of God’s forgiveness:

1.  It is unmerited, but not free (John 3:16)

2.  It does not eliminate all consequences (Heb. 12:10-11, 2 Sam 12:7-15)

3.  It aims at reconciliation (2 Cor. 5:17-21; Eph. 2:13))

4.  It is motivated by love for the offender (1 John 4:10)

5.  It is an interpersonal transaction (Luke 24:47)

6.  It is conditional (Acts 20:21)

How does this contrast with popular therapeutic forgiveness?

1 Unpacking Forgiveness, Chris Brauns, Crossway, p 61

Podcast 4: The Irreducible Complexity of the Gospel

The following message is the first of three by Ron Bennett that was given at a Navigator Kansas Community Conference in Wichita, KS.  The theme of the conference was:  Discipleship on the Resurrection side of the Cross.  The title of this message is:  The Foundation of Discipleship – The Irreducible Complexity of the Gospel. (See also TAD Blogs 15-20)

Outline

Prologue (John 1:1-5)

Act 1: Incarnation

  • Jesus:  Eternal Word becomes human  (John 1:14)
  • Jesus as revealer of God (John 1:18; Heb. 1:1-3)

Act 2:  Demonstration

  • Jesus is called the Servant (Isa 53; Phil. 2:6-7)
  • He is the second Adam (1 Cor. 15:45)

Act 3:  Crucifixion

  • Christ is the promised Savior (Rom. 5:8; 1 Peter 3:18)
  • Cross provides the doorway to the kingdom  (John 14:6; Col. 1:13)

Act 4:  Resurrection

  • Christ is declared the Son of God  (Rom. 1:1-4)
  • He is revealed as victorious (1 Cor. 15:54-57)

Act 5:   Ascension

  • Christ is called the final High Priest (Heb. 4:14) 
  • Humanity enters heaven (Col. 2:9)

Act 6:  Coronation

  • Christ is crowned King  (Col. 2:10)
  • He is revealed as sovereign with authority and majesty (Eph. 1:19-23)

Act 7:  Examination

  • The King becomes judge (Act 17:30-31)
  • The kingdom becomes visible (Rev. 21:1-2)

Epilogue:  Celebration

TADB 68: The Spiritual Spine of Discipleship

Any discussion of the anatomy of discipleship would be incomplete without spending some time exploring the skeletal structure that provides the form and framework for all the other vital functions.  Both our physical and spiritual skeletons are hidden from sight, but they are vital, extremely relevant and should not be ignored.  Likewise just as our physical skeleton grows as we mature so also our spiritual skeletal system must develop if it is to support the weight and activity of adulthood.

I suggest that there are three key components to our spiritual skeleton:  Reconciliation, Adoption, and Naturalization.  These three form an integrated framework for our new identity in Christ.  They are a both a gift and a birthright given through faith in Christ.  Each one involves a transaction that forms our new identity.  Each one is amazingly wonderful, critical, and complex.

As we continue to develop our personal spiritual health, as well as help others develop theirs, we need to periodically do a bone scan and check for osteoporosis.  Bone loss can lead to problems when we least expect it.  A  spiritual diagnostic scan is more than asking, “Am I born again?”, “Have I prayed the sinner’s prayer?”, or “Have I invited Jesus into my heart?”  It involves examining the strength of our major skeletal structure.

1.  RECONCILIATION is the means by which we are reconnected with our Creator.  Our relationship with Him had been severed by sin and our rebellious hearts made us worthy of God’s condemnation.  Reconciliation is how God has brought us back into right relationship with Him through the saving work of Jesus Christ.

As Paul wrote,  “Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation”  (2Cor. 5:18).

Reconciliation is the heart of the Gospel message and as such is like our spine; it supports everything else.  If our understanding of reconciliation is weak or broken, discipleship is vulnerable.  For example, if our understanding of the Gospel and salvation is that it is a get out of jail (hell) free card or a quick fix for our hurts, hang-ups, and habits, it is like having spiritual Spina Bifita.  Such a belief system creates an underdeveloped and weak spinal structure that is inadequate to support the life God intends us to live.

Reconciliation involves several key ideas that are often misunderstood in our current Christian culture:  forgiveness, pardon, and judgment.  Sloppy thinking on these concepts weakens the spine and causes spiritual chronic pain, loss of strength, and even paralysis.   We will look at these more closely in the next few blogs.

2.  ADOPTION is another part of our spiritual skeletal structure and is the reason we have a Father/child relationship with God.  Not only does adoption make God our Father, but it also makes other people of faith our extended family and Jesus Christ is our elder brother.  As part of His family we are now His heirs and joint heirs with Christ. 

See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are (1 John 3:1).

Notice that John is saying we are not just called children of God; we actually ARE His children.  He is not saying we are naturally born children of God, as liberal theology proposes, but rather we are adopted into God’s family through faith and repentance.  Family status is now our birthright.  Understanding what that means and living accordingly is how we honor that birthright. 

3.  NATURALIZATION is the third part of our spiritual skeleton.  Naturalization is the “act of making someone a legal citizen of a country that they were not born in” (Cambridge Dictionary).

For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins (Col 1:13-14).

The privilege of citizenship in God’s kingdom was central to the message Jesus preached during His ministry on earth.  He announced that He is the door – the entrance – into this new kingdom (Mark 1:35; John 10:9).  It is essential that we adapt our lives to fit into His kingdom which is what our journey of discipleship is all about.    

Embracing the gospel should lead naturally to the question, “How do I learn to live in this new, invisible, yet real country?”  This is not a simple question.  Saints through the millennia have wrestled with it.  How do we live in, but not of, this world?  How do we contribute as aliens and strangers to a world that is no longer  our home?   This kingdom transfer is now a part of our new identity and should motivate us to live as good citizens.

Notice that spiritual naturalization requires that we relinquish our allegiance (our old passport) to gain a new one.  There are no duel citizenships in God’s kingdom.  Repentance means turning from (rejecting) the ungodly rebellion of this world and transferring our allegiance to the kingdom of God.  Our new spiritual country has different values, laws, freedoms, responsibilities and currency than our old one.  We still live in the old kingdom, but it is no longer our home.  Discipleship is learning how to live in our new kingdom.

An earthly example might be Roman citizenship.  Historically it was a trump card that opened doors and provided protection.  Anywhere in the Roman Empire, if you identified yourself as a Roman citizen, you had the power and privileges of the Empire at your disposal.  But citizenship also expected the person to live in a way that honored Rome.  Privilege carries responsibility.

Reconciliation, adoption, and naturalization are gifts that we live out of; they are not ones we live to gain.  In other words, we do not do good works to gain reconciliation, adoption, or naturalization.  Rather, as we live in accordance with them, they are the basis for our new identity and they give us freedom, confidence, and courage to pursue our relationship with God as friends, children, and citizens of His kingdom.

Over the next several blogs, I want to explore and strengthen our spiritual skeleton.

Questions for reflection:

How do you see yourself most of the time?  What forms your identity?  How prevalent is the idea of friend, child, and citizen?

TADB 67: Pathway – What is the Next Step?

More than 1,000 churches have taken the Reveal Survey for the purpose of discerning their church’s spiritual growth.  Among their findings, the authors discovered that churches successful in moving people toward maturity, have an identifiable, nonnegotiable, high challenge, “core curriculum” consisting of effective next steps for spiritual growth.1  The core curriculum was not the only venue that was utilized, but it was the essential one for taking the next step on the pathway to maturity. 

Much like stepping stones on a pathway make walking forward doable, so also specific venues help people to take their next spiritual step.  Those next steps should be sequential and provide a faith challenge but not be more than one can handle.

In my early years with The Navigators in college we used a core set of materials for our discipleship pathway.  A new believer was introduced to “Lessons on Assurance” which was followed by a Bible study series called “Design for Discipleship” and The Navigators Topical Memory System.  This was our core curriculum.  (They are still available from NavPress).  Although I now use different tools in my discipling process, the strategy is the same; I have a core pathway I use at each level of maturity.

A core curriculum serves the same function as courses taken in college.  Each discipline has its 101, 201, 301 courses.  That is not all that is offered, but they are foundational.  The 200 level courses are not available until you demonstrate competency at the 100 level.  As an engineering student in college, I had many mathematical course options but not until I mastered calculus. 

This process strategy is common in secular education but rare in our pathway for spiritual development.  Usually we go with a general “whatever” or “one size fits all” approach.  This is partly true because our American culture is constantly offering options making a standard pathway sound archaic.  In fact, choices are expected.  We are told that everyone is unique, has his own learning style, and has the right to decide for himself what he/she wants or needs.  Of course, following a clear pathway doesn’t exclude options; it simply makes them a complement to the core – not the core itself.    

Another major hindrance to a core curriculum approach is that we tend to do with others what was done with us.  People who have not experienced a clear pathway to discipleship, are very hesitant to mentor someone else.  Their personal experience has been limited to casual fellowship and a “hit and miss” understanding of scripture.  Consequently, they don’t know where to begin or how to progress along a spiritual pathway.  The advantage of a core curriculum is that it is not only effective in building the basic concepts and skills of the Christian life, but it also provides a disciple with tools needed to disciple the next spiritual generation.

I observed this dilemma first hand a few years ago.  I was training the regional directors of a mission organization in how to be intentional in disciplemaking.  All of the men were mature, seasoned missionaries, and now leading missionaries.  When I asked if anyone could tell me how they got to their current maturity level, the room was silent.  Their histories had all included a variety of very good, life-changing experiences, but none had a clear pathway for discipleship that was pass-on-able. 

So let’s do a little assessment.   Do you have the tools to create a pass-on-able pathway?  If you were given the assignment to help a person grow from spiritual childhood to spiritual parenting, what would you use?  Or consider another scenario.  A person recognizes your spiritual maturity and asks if you would help them become a mature apprentice of Christ like yourself.  What if he/she were to ask you, “If I give you access to my life for the next two years to be discipled, what would we do?  At the end of the two years what will I look like?  How will I be different?”  How would you answer?

There are a couple of ways you can “learn” to play the game of golf.  One is to go out with your buddies and just play the best you can trying to emulate what they do.  Some may play well, most are just “hackers” but, hey, they generally hit the ball in the general direction of the green.  A second way is to find someone who plays well and knows how he/she got there.  They have taken the time to break down the golf swing into its various components and can pass on what they have learned.  They know the proper technique requires starting with the putter and working your way to the driver:  a process with manageable next steps.

Consider filling in the following grid for your own discipleship process.  If you have some holes in your grid, how can you fill them in?  Who do you know who can give you some suggestions?

In the next few blog posts I will explore the skeletal framework of discipleship, the part that is hidden but holds it all together and gives support. 

Here is a summary outline of the current series on The Anatomy of Discipleship

1. Profile: Learner or Apprentice (TAD Blob 59)

2. Pursuits: What are we aiming at?  (TAD Blog 60)

3. PurposeWhat is it designed for?  (TAD Blog 61)

4.  Pattern: Who do we Look Like? (TAD Blog 62)

5.  Provision:  Where is the Power? (TAD Blog 63)

6.  Priority:  How Important is it?  (TAD Blog 64)

7.  ProcessCruise Ship or Ocean Liner? (TAD Blog 65)

8.  Proof:  Where is the Evidence (TAD Blog 66)

9.  Pathway:  What is the Next Step? (TAD Blog 67)

1  Move, Greg Hawkins & Cally Parkinson, Zondervan/Willow, p210

TADB 66: Proof – What is the Evidence?

Advances in DNA technology have resulted in the increased use of DNA tests. From paternity tests to criminal investigations, the accuracy and data provided mean that millions of people are now turning to DNA testing to answer their questions.  By using DNA testing, we can now confirm biological sibling, parent, and grandparent relationships.  If you are interested in your family tree, you can use DNA to search for genetic ancestors.  Of course, some may not want to know.  One man paid $5,000 to discover his family tree and another $10,000 to cover it back up!

But what if a spiritual DNA test were available to determine if a common ancestry exists between first century disciples and us today?  Even though we are separated by 2000 years plus different geography, language, and customs, is there a common DNA that would say we are related?

If Jesus gave us a discipleship DNA test kit to test ourselves as well as those we are discipling, would we want to use it?  Or would we be threatened by it and prefer to simply assume we are biblical disciples?  If we are bold enough to want to know, where could we go to find such a test?

Actually, Jesus did give His disciples a universal DNA test kit.  It was applicable in His day and it is applicable for us today, regardless of the century we live in or our culture.  Are we courageous enough to use it? 

In our Anatomy of Discipleship (TADB 59) series, we have been discussing: 

  • The Profile of Discipleship:  Apprenticeship (TADB 60)
  • The Purpose of Discipleship:  Image bearer (TADB 61)
  • The Pattern of Discipleship:  Transformation (TADB 62)
  • The Provision for Discipleship:  Grace/responsibility (TADB 63)
  • The Priority of Discipleship: Critical but not urgent (TADB 64)
  • The Process of Discipleship:  Journey (TADB 65)…and now
  • The Proof of Discipleship: DNA

If there is to be a measure of discipleship that is universal and not limited by cultures, we would expect it to be driven by principle rather than a particular application.  And that is exactly what we find in the gospels as Jesus addresses “true discipleship”.  He has given us authoritative DNA markers that we are not free to reinvent or replace with substitutes.  Therefore, it is essential for us to know what those markers are and use them to define our discipleship.  This discipleship DNA test is not about having a healthy ministry or church rather it is about being and making the kind of people Jesus would call His disciples.

There are four tests of discipleship that are recorded in the gospel narrative.  Jesus did not give them as part of a lecture, but rather in the context of training His disciples.  There are certainly more discipleship traits than these four, but there cannot be less.

Remember these discipleship indicators are not something we accomplish like a check off list.  There is no room for a “been there, done that” attitude.  Rather they give us qualities that should be evident but also growing in depth and application.  Unlike physical DNA that is permanent and static, discipleship DNA is developed over a lifetime; it can even be lost. 

Jesus said His disciples would be characterized as:

1.  Submitting to the authority and leadership of Christ:  SACRIFICIAL ALLEGIANCE

If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple (Luke 14:26). 

A disciple is one who consistently submits to the authority and leadership of Christ, making God’s kingdom his highest priority (Matt 6:33).

2.  Searching the Scripture in order to obey it:  FAITHFUL OBEDIENCE

So Jesus was saying to those Jews who had believed Him, “If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free (John 8:31-32).

A disciple is one who makes the Scripture the final authority for all of life, seeking to know His truth, obey His commands, and live by a biblical, kingdom worldview.

3.  Loving others the way Jesus loves:  SERVANT LOVE

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another (John 13:34-35)

A disciple is one who has an increasing love for others expressed in humility, community, and acts of service.

4.  Supporting kingdom expansion through spiritual generations:  SPIRITUAL FRUITFULNESS

“My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be My disciples” (John 15:8).

A disciple is one who lives as Christ’s ambassador, living and sharing the gospel of Christ and His kingdom. 

What would happen if instead of measuring how many programs we attended, Bible studies we filled out or projects we served in, we actually used these four traits as indicators of our level of discipleship?  What if regardless of the tools we used, we prayed these qualities into the lives of those we are mentoring?

Questions for reflection:

  1.  How did Jesus model each of these traits?
  2. How could these traits be demonstrated in our current culture?

NOTE:  I have given an executive summary of the four discipleship traits here and if you want more explanation, go to TADB #34-41.  Better yet, reflect on these passages and write your own explanation.

TADB 65: Process – Cruise Ship or Ocean Liner?

 “The terms “cruise ship” and “ocean liner” are often used interchangeably.  However, while both are types of passenger ships, there is a difference.

An ocean liner is a ship designed to transport passengers from point A to point B.  The classic example of such a voyage would be a transatlantic crossing from Europe to America.  Because a ship could encounter all types of weather on such a voyage, an ocean liner must be built to be strong by using a great deal of steel in the hull. The bow is long and tapered to allow the ship to cut through the waves and it has a deep draft for stability.

Cruise ships are built for the purpose of taking passengers on a journey that begins and ends in the same port.  A classic example of such a voyage is a Caribbean cruise that begins and ends in Miami, Florida.”1

When air travel took the place of ocean liners, ship companies were left with huge investments with no purpose.  The solution was to turn ocean liners into cruise ships.  However, it was soon discovered that modifications were required.  Cruise ships didn’t need all the steel, pointed bows, or deep drafts since they sailed in moderately calm water. They did need to become more “boxy” to accommodate more passengers.

A few years ago my wife and I took a Caribbean cruise on what was, at that time, the largest cruise ship in the world.  The travel agent promoted it by saying, “This cruise is not about going somewhere.  The ship itself is the destination.” 

Are we on a spiritual cruise ship or an ocean liner?

Discipleship is like an old fashioned ocean liner designed to take us from point A to point B.  The implication is that we are on a journey or a quest that utilizes process.  The New Testament uses several metaphors to describe this process including an architectural, agricultural, physical, and athletic model.   Each model offers a unique picture of discipleship, but what is common to all of them is process.  So whether it is building, growing, maturing or running, they all model discipleship as a process of moving from one stage to another.  In each case the process is progressive, intentional, and systematic. 

In 1 Corinthians 3, Paul rebukes the Corinthians not for being spiritual children but for being children for too long.  The writer of Hebrews also rebukes his audience for remaining immature when they should be able to teach others (Hebrews 5). 

In contrast, intentional discipleship advances our journey by establishing a process to reach our destination.  It is a progressive journey that requires taking one step at a time through specific “stages” that move us toward spiritual maturity.   

For example, Jesus led the twelve through several stages in their pathway to maturity:

  • “Come and see” (John 1:39) – Exploring stage to learn about Jesus and connect with Him.
  • “Follow Me” (Matt 4:19) – Establishing stage to grow in heart commitment to Jesus.
  • “Be with Me” (Mk 3:14) – Equipping stage to develop lifetime habits for walking with Jesus.
  • “Go for Me” (John 20:21)—Extending stage to serve and share truth as His ambassador.

Using the physical metaphor, spiritual stages could be identified as:2

  • Child stage:  understanding our new identity in Christ, eating a healthy spiritual diet, knowing and connecting with our new family, learning to feed ourselves…
  • Young adult stage:  taking responsibility for choices, learning self-discipline, gaining an overview of Scripture, developing skills for spiritual warfare, developing healthy spiritual habits…
  • Adult stage:  contributing to the kingdom cause, living a balanced life, demonstrating love and self-control, setting and maintaining priorities, modeling a lifelong apprenticeship…
  • Parent stage:  investing in others, mentoring, equipping the next generation, passing on spiritual wisdom…

Obviously, this process is not a straight line progression.  At times a child may act more mature than an adult or an adult may act childish.  The growth process is more like a spiral that moves in a direction, requiring intentionally taking one step at a time.

There is nothing wrong with being a child….just being one forever.

Questions for Reflection:

1.  What stage would you be in currently?  What would help you move to the next stage of maturity?

2.  What other indicators would you expect at each of the stages above?

1Fodor’s travel service

2. Jim Putnam in his book Real Life Discipleship uses a physical model and has 5 stages of spiritual development:  spiritually dead, infant, child, young adult, parent.  He also has some helpful indicators for each stage.

TADB 64: Priority – How Important is it?

Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important. 

The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities. Stephan Covey

“I don’t have time” is the most common response I hear from people when I ask them to pursue a lifestyle of discipleship.  Living in the “tyranny of the urgent” people’s lives are more reactive than proactive.  Discipleship is something we may someday get around to pursuing, but for now life is too complex, hectic, and demanding.  We are already committed to Christian connecting and serving activities so time spent in the inner life of pursuing apprenticeship to Christ is optional.  Perhaps we will get around to it once life settles down.

If discipleship is the personal, intentional pursuit of Christ and His kingdom, why is it frequently an elective?

This is not only a 21st century problem.  Jesus faced the same response from people in the 1st century.  Luke gives us two case studies in which discipleship is an elective rather than a priority (Luke 9:57-62). 

In one case the answer to Jesus’ invitation to follow Him was, “Lord, permit me first to go and bury my father.” Jesus responded by saying, “Allow the dead to bury their own dead; but as for you, go and proclaim everywhere the kingdom of God” (Luke 9:59-60 NASB). 

In the second example, the person’s response was, “I will follow You, Lord; but first permit me to say good-bye to those at home.” Jesus’ response was, “No one, after putting his hand to the plow and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God” (Luke 9:61-62 NASB).

There are several reasons for our “elective” mentality of discipleship.

  • We view Jesus Christ as the resurrected Savior and ignore that He is our ascended Lord and King who is worthy of our allegiance and alignment.
  • We substitute Christian activity for personal apprenticeship.
  • We pursue information about Christ rather than transformation to be like Christ.
  • We live on the edge of urgency rather than on the platform of priority.

Leadership and time management coach, Stephen Covey said,

“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage …to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside.” 

More importantly Jesus said, “Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.  But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness (discipleship), and all these things will be added to you” (Mat 6:31-33).

Reading the gospel accounts about discipleship, we will discover that discipleship is to be a priority over family, self, friends, comfort, and even worship. 

Which of the systemic life issues that plague us (divorce, fatherlessness, unwed mothers, drugs, alcoholism, abortion, crime, suicide, poverty, checked-out kids, cheating, disrespect for authority, hate) would not be solved if we made discipleship the priority?          

Discipleship is not urgent like a flat tire, but it is un-urgently critical.  It is the scheduled maintenance that prevents having to call Roadside Assistance.  According to the latest data (2017), the time the average American spends on social media is 2.5 hours per day.  Yet the common excuse for elective discipleship could be summed up as:

I am too busy trying to be a good parent, spouse, worker, and church member to daily spend time developing my personal relationship with Christ.

But if we really believed that the power to live the victorious Christian life comes from our relationship with Christ, shouldn’t our response be more like:

Life is so complex and demanding that I can’t afford NOT to spend daily time with Christ in His Word.

What we become tomorrow is based on the choices we make today.

The result of our elective mentality is we live spiritually passive lives until we face a major problem.  Basically, we live our lives as practical deists, believing there is a real God but acting like He is not relevant to our daily ordinary lives.    True discipleship is not withdrawal from life, but rather it is making our relationship with Christ the ultimate governor of our daily lives and the choices we make.  The only way that will happen is if there is a bigger “yes” that burns in our hearts so our lives will no longer be controlled by what is urgent rather than by what is priority. 

Question for reflection:

  • What are the “But firsts” that challenge your discipleship priority?
  • What are other reasons for elective discipleship?

TADB 63: Provision – Where is the Power?

Transformational power is released at the intersection of divine grace and our responsibility.

We are looking at discipleship through the lens of an apprentice who is on a relational journey of spiritual transformation becoming an image bearer of Christ.  We have looked at the Profile, Purpose, and Pattern of discipleship and now I want to explore the Provision for discipleship. 

The question is “How does this transformation into His image bearer actually happen?”  When we begin to think in terms of intentionality, we often sense a tension between God’s work of grace in us and our responsibility.  What is God’s part and what is ours? 

Spiritual formation (discipleship) is something we humans can and must undertake — as individuals and in fellowship with other apprentices of Jesus.  While it is simultaneously a profound manifestation of God’s gracious action through his Word and Spirit, it is also something we are responsible for before God and set about achieving in a sensible systematic manner.   D. Willard, “Renovation of the Heart” p. 25

In Paul’s letter to the Philippians he captures succinctly the tension of these two provisions:

Dear friends, you always followed my instructions when I was with you. And now that I am away, it is even more important. Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear.  For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases Him (Phil. 2:12-13 NLT).

In the New Testament there seems to be a constant parallelism between God’s provision of grace and our responsibility.  The familiar call to discipleship in Matthew 4:19 ties these two critical concepts together:

“Follow Me (responsibility) and I will make you fishers of men (grace).”

When we reflect on the promises of God as His provision of grace, we recognize they are closely linked to our responsibility to fulfill a condition.  In reality we cannot claim a promise without taking responsibility to fulfill the God given conditions that accompany it. For example the promise Jesus gives in Matthew 11:28:

“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden (our responsibility) and I will give you rest (provision of grace). Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me (responsibility) … and you will find rest for your souls (grace) …”         

Peter also links God’s provision of grace for our transformation with our responsibility:

“His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness (provision of grace) through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.  Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises (grace) so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.  For this reason, make every effort (responsibility) to add to your faith goodness…knowledge…self-control … perseverance … godliness … brotherly kindness … and love” (2 Peter 1:3-7 NIV). 

In the familiar discipleship metaphor of the vine and branches (John 15), Jesus clearly identifies both the provision of grace and personal responsibility.  The main directive (responsibility) is to “abide in the Vine”.    The grace provision is evident as the Vine provides the source of life and the Gardner provides necessary pruning.  The branch, however, must remain fully connected to the vine in order to produce abundant fruit.  Our responsibility is not to produce the fruit but to abide in Christ.  The fruit will be the result. 

The power for spiritual formation to become His image bearers comes where His grace and our responsibility meet.  Paul’s pattern for beginning his letters to the churches was to first remind them that they were new creations with a new identity and position in Christ (provision of grace).  But then he challenges them regarding their responsibilities to put on and put off various behaviors.

 “That, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth” (Eph. 4:22-25 NASB).

Therefore…

  • Stop lying and tell the truth
  • Stop stealing and get a job
  • Stop sponging and start giving
  • Stop your vulgarity and start encouraging others by what you say
  • Stop being bitter and start loving…

God in regeneration renews our original capacity for divine interaction.  But our body’s substance is only to be transformed totally by actions and events in which we choose to participate from day-to-day. D. Willard, “The Spirit of the Disciplines”, p. 92-93.

Transformational power is released at the intersection of divine grace and our responsibility.

For reflection:  Identify both the grace and responsibility in Paul’s statement.

“We proclaim Him, admonishing every man and teaching every man with all wisdom, so that we may present every man complete in Christ.  For this purpose also I labor, striving according to His power, which mightily works within me” (Col 1:28-29).

TADB 62: Pattern – Who do we Look Like?

An unapproved imitation is called a forgery or a counterfeit.

A poor imitation is called a knockoff, fake, or rip-off.

But a good imitation is called a genuine reproduction.

If an apprentice is to produce a genuine reproduction of an original and not a fake, knockoff, or counterfeit, he/she must perfectly imitate the original pattern implemented by the craftsman.  I suggested in the last blog that the purpose of discipleship is to become an image bearer of Christ.  So in what way is Christ the Pattern which we must imitate? 

Down through history believers have developed various lifestyles based on their understanding of what it means to imitate Christ.  For some it took the form of living in the desert, for others poverty or simplicity.  A more recent approach was to ask the question “What would Jesus do?”  Bracelets and buttons were used as reminders to pattern our behavior after what we thought Jesus would do in any given situation. 

When I ask people what it means to imitate Christ, they usually respond with the fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:23-24).   But is that all that it means when Paul said we are to “be transformed into the same image from glory to glory” (2 Cor. 3:18)?

The rabbinical model of discipleship required disciples to be just like their rabbi in every way possible.  Jesus said,

“A pupil is not above his teacher; but everyone, after he has been fully trained, will be like his teacher (in every way possible)” (Luke 6:40). 

A true apprentice reflects more than the teacher’s knowledge or behavior.  An apprentice imitates both the outer and inner, comprehensive life of the teacher.  He is a genuine image bearer of his teacher. 

The inner life is the subject of Paul’s teaching in Romans 12:2.

“And do not be conformed (external) to this world, but be transformed (internal) by the renewing of your mind…”

Conformation is the external (behavior) imitation while transformation is the inner (heart and mind) reformation. 

We are told not to be conformed to the world, but neither should we be simply conformed to Christ in external behavior only.  Our transformation must go below the water line of behavior to touch our heart and soul. 

An iceberg illustrates the complexity of our outer and inner lives.  The above (visible) part is held up and supported by the bigger invisible part.  Jesus emphasized this important distinction in Luke 6:45.

“A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.”

The King James Version says, “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.”

As men and women who are followers of Christ, our Imitation of Christ is to go beyond doing acts of kindness (valuable as it is), to actually becoming kind in heart.  Imitation is the transformation of our inner values, convictions, and principles so that good behavior is not just action tacked on when we think about it, but rather what naturally comes from our newly transformed heart and mind.

This transformation process produces behavior that is so consistent as to become predictable.  When I am asked to give a character reference for a potential employee, I know I am not being asked if I have just observed certain behaviors.  They are asking if I have observed behavior so consistent as to become predictive of future actions.  In other words, is the behavior more than an act?  Is it genuine coming from the treasury of a good heart?

Emulation may be a better word than imitation.  Imitation can refer to a cheap copy, something poorly done, or a knockoff.  Emulation, however, implies being genuine all the way through.  In our technical world imitation refers to a computer running another computer’s “apps” (software programs), while emulation refers to running another computer’s inner operating system.

Image bearing is not only deep, it is comprehensive as Paul writes “…that you may prove what the will of God is” (Romans 12:2).  Genuine emulation goes beyond obeying the biblical ethical code.  It includes alignment to the whole will of God.         

If I said I wanted to be like George Washington but all I knew about him was that he was the first president of the United States and the commander of the Continental Army, you would rightfully suspect I was not serious.  If I were serious, I would read about what he said and did as well as what others said about him.  I would want to study his speeches to learn what he valued.  I would want to know his habits, practices, and mannerisms.  Can we be serious about reflecting Christ when we know so little about Him?  Are we satisfied with just knowing that He is our Savior and King?

Since Christ is to be the “first born among many brethren”; He is our elder brother.  To emulate Him we need to comprehend His:

  • Character
  • Behavior
  • Values
  • Teaching
  • Habits
  • Mission
  • Purposes
  • Desires, etc.

Although the Gospels give a limited account of the life of Christ, we have been given sufficient knowledge to understand His life Pattern.  The Scripture also gives us the power to discern where we fall short in our inner character and motivations (2 Tim. 3:16-17; Hebrews 4:12).  With this in mind, one practical way to expand our understanding of that Pattern is to read the gospels through the lens of one of the above concepts.  For example read Matthew looking for His values (stated and implied).  Then read Mark looking for His mission or purposes, etc.  Reading with a particular lens can open new insights into the One we are to emulate.

When Paul encountered Christ on the road to Damascus (Acts 22), he asked two questions:

  • Who are you, Lord?  and
  • What should I do?

The second question is an outgrowth of the first.  We are called to follow the person of Christ not just a creed.  As an apprentice, the more we understand and emulate WHO Christ is the more we will be transformed and live a life in alignment with His will.  Paul’s two questions should be at the heart of our apprenticeship today.

Questions for reflection:

1.  What were some of Christ’s habits that we should emulate?

2.  What was it that made Christ joyful?  Sorrowful?  Angry?

TADB 61: Purpose – What is it Designed for?

Why would anyone want to pursue discipleship?

In our current blog series we are exploring the anatomy of discipleship.  We first looked at its Profile in terms of its definition and description (TADB 60).  Now I want to explore the Purpose of discipleship by answering the question, “Why is it essential for the Christian life?”  Without answering the “why” question, discipleship will be ignored or at best, treated as a temporary novelty.

Imagine for a moment a sort of “Back to the Future” scenario.  A modern day automobile is deposited back in time when our hunter gatherer ancestors lived.  A hunting party comes upon the car glistening in the sun and cautiously approaches it asking the obvious questions, “What is it and what is it for?”

After seeing his face in the rearview mirror, one member exclaims, “It is a reflection machine!”  Another opens the door and sees the leather seats and says, “It is a sleep machine”.  After pushing various buttons on the dashboard, another concludes, “It is a noise making machine”. 

But if they read the owner’s manual or talked to the designer, they would learn that the purpose of the machine was to facilitate travel … to take people to places they have never been before and to do it in grand style. 

When we consult the Owner’s manual for discipleship, we learn that it is not an end in itself but a means to an end.  The Designer has a purpose in mind when He invites us to follow Him. 

Paul ties God’s work on our behalf with His purpose for discipleship.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.  For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers (Romans 8:28-29).

Notice that the promised “good” is tied to God’s purpose:  conformity to the image of Christ.  This purpose is consistent with what Jesus taught in Luke 6:40, “Everyone when he has been fully trained will be like his teacher.”  Discipleship is designed to produce men and women who are like Christ/bear His image (See the example in Acts 3:14).

This purpose goes back to the original design of Genesis 1, when man was made in the image of God and told to be fruitful and multiply (reproduce additional image bearers).  On the resurrection side of the cross, the same theme of image bearing is repeated only now under a new covenant (See 2 Cor. 3:18). 

In Paul’s letters he goes on to say that the purpose of discipleship is to develop not only individuals who share Christlikeness but a whole family of image bearers who acknowledge His preeminence. 

“… so that He would be the firstborn among many brethren” (family of image bearers) (Rom 8:29).

 “… so that He Himself will come to have first place in everything” (preeminence) (Col. 1:18).

Too often we get stuck in childhood, asking “what’s in it for me?” rather than “What is His design?”  We are like the crowds in Jesus’ day who were looking for a free lunch and health care system.  We seek after His benefits more than transformation to be like Him.  “What’s in it for me?” attitude will never sustain discipleship.

New Testament discipleship is more than behavior modification.  Our old personal operating system had a binary code of control and consumption.  Our new operating system (2 Cor. 5:17) is based on the binary code of relationship and responsibility.  This new binary code is evidenced in Jesus’ invitation:  “Follow Me (relationship) and I will make you fishers of men (responsibility).”  The historic Westminster confession states that the chief end of man is to “glorify God (responsibility) and enjoy Him forever (relationship).” 

The gospel opens the door to a transformational relationship with Christ that restores our lost identity as His image bearers.  Discipleship is the means by which that design is accomplished.

The critical question then is, do we as disciples and disciple-makers embrace the Designer’s purpose for discipleship?  As we follow Christ are we seeking to reflect the family likeness of the First Born (Christ)?

Without embracing God’s purpose for discipleship, we are just playing with the buttons on the dashboard of the car when we could be traveling to amazing places we have never been.

For reflection consider other discipleship motivations. 

  • Col 1:9-10
  • 2 Thess. 1:5, 11-12
  • 2 Tim 2:4
  • Heb. 11:6
  • Rom 8:6-8
  • 1 Thess. 4:1
  • 1 Cor. 10:31