Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.
The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities. Stephan Covey
“I don’t have time” is the most common response I hear from people when I ask them to pursue a lifestyle of discipleship. Living in the “tyranny of the urgent” people’s lives are more reactive than proactive. Discipleship is something we may someday get around to pursuing, but for now life is too complex, hectic, and demanding. We are already committed to Christian connecting and serving activities so time spent in the inner life of pursuing apprenticeship to Christ is optional. Perhaps we will get around to it once life settles down.
If discipleship is the personal, intentional pursuit of Christ and His kingdom, why is it frequently an elective?
This is not only a 21st century problem. Jesus faced the same response from people in the 1st century. Luke gives us two case studies in which discipleship is an elective rather than a priority (Luke 9:57-62).
In one case the answer to Jesus’ invitation to follow Him was, “Lord, permit me first to go and bury my father.” Jesus responded by saying, “Allow the dead to bury their own dead; but as for you, go and proclaim everywhere the kingdom of God” (Luke 9:59-60 NASB).
In the second example, the person’s response was, “I will follow You, Lord; but first permit me to say good-bye to those at home.” Jesus’ response was, “No one, after putting his hand to the plow and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God” (Luke 9:61-62 NASB).
There are several reasons for our “elective” mentality of discipleship.
- We view Jesus Christ as the resurrected Savior and ignore that He is our ascended Lord and King who is worthy of our allegiance and alignment.
- We substitute Christian activity for personal apprenticeship.
- We pursue information about Christ rather than transformation to be like Christ.
- We live on the edge of urgency rather than on the platform of priority.
Leadership and time management coach, Stephen Covey said,
“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage …to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside.”
More importantly Jesus said, “Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness (discipleship), and all these things will be added to you” (Mat 6:31-33).
Reading the gospel accounts about discipleship, we will discover that discipleship is to be a priority over family, self, friends, comfort, and even worship.
Which of the systemic life issues that plague us (divorce, fatherlessness, unwed mothers, drugs, alcoholism, abortion, crime, suicide, poverty, checked-out kids, cheating, disrespect for authority, hate) would not be solved if we made discipleship the priority?
Discipleship is not urgent like a flat tire, but it is un-urgently critical. It is the scheduled maintenance that prevents having to call Roadside Assistance. According to the latest data (2017), the time the average American spends on social media is 2.5 hours per day. Yet the common excuse for elective discipleship could be summed up as:
I am too busy trying to be a good parent, spouse, worker, and church member to daily spend time developing my personal relationship with Christ.
But if we really believed that the power to live the victorious Christian life comes from our relationship with Christ, shouldn’t our response be more like:
Life is so complex and demanding that I can’t afford NOT to spend daily time with Christ in His Word.
The result of our elective mentality is we live spiritually passive lives until we face a major problem. Basically, we live our lives as practical deists, believing there is a real God but acting like He is not relevant to our daily ordinary lives. True discipleship is not withdrawal from life, but rather it is making our relationship with Christ the ultimate governor of our daily lives and the choices we make. The only way that will happen is if there is a bigger “yes” that burns in our hearts so our lives will no longer be controlled by what is urgent rather than by what is priority.
Question for reflection:
- What are the “But firsts” that challenge your discipleship priority?
- What are other reasons for elective discipleship?
Thanks again Ron,
Your blogs meet me right in the middle of life and encourage me to keep following Him for daily strength and direction. Your compass has always been pointing to Jesus and we’re all blessed because it is.
I agree with the need to separate “priority” and “urgent.” I suspect it was unintended, but there is an implication in your blog that doing good and serving family, friends & neighbors takes second place to worship, study & meditation. A true disciple follows Christ in all he or she does. The neighbor who needs a loaf of bread now isn’t going to be helped by telling him or her that I’ll pray about it. I believe discipleship is a lifestyle and a journey.
Thanks for the comment Jim. You are certainly right that discipleship is intended to be holistic and comprehensive. I didn’t intend to imply that serving and acts of kindness are secondary. What I am saying is that the inner life is the fuel for the outer life. If we neglect the inner life, service lacks the power and passion that is available.
Agreed!